this was such a beautiful read. especially because it made me think too of what my version of the ' test ' looked like and I realised it has had always something to do with kindness. how someone behaves and treats someone they have no obligation to do right by - makes me believe they're a safe place. because people and feeling often change, someone saying they would never let you go can drop your hand in a minute's inconvenience when the situation calls for it, but the way we are as ' humans ' , our intrinsic nature cannot be so easily muffled or changed with situations. It assures me - even when we are in a storm - atleast we're in this together and you'd not kill me just to make it out alive. too dramatic? mayhaps but i think someone kind assures you that even that you heart breaks with that said person, it can still deserve and receive a soft landing on the floor and not a free fall from 10 stories above. it still will have cracks from the fall, but anything better than having it entirely shattered
this was so, so beautifully put i genuinely got goosebumps reading it. 🥹🤍 the way you described kindness as the real test... i couldn't agree more. love, words, promises, they can all change with circumstances, but someone's core, their humanity, how they choose to treat you when they have nothing to gain... that's the real anchor. thank you for this comment - it is stunning!
My test was telling him the truth about what I've been through so I knew if he'd still want to stay and he didn't just pass it he aced it, not only did he stay but he made sure I was comfortable and helped me get comfortable telling the people that needed to know the truth
that’s so incredibly beautiful. 🥹 it takes so much courage to be vulnerable like that, and even more to find someone who meets you with love and patience
I think if someone has to consciously test their love interest, they’re in the wrong relationship, but if someone just passes all of the “tests” without anything consciously being laid out, they’re in the right one.
you are absolutely right! the most beautiful relationships are the ones where you don't even think of setting a test, the person just keeps showing up for you, again and again, without you ever having to ask. it’s like life naturally reveals their love without you having to pull at it. 💛
I love the analogy but I couldn't help but giggle to myself at the "two people. a car. 1000 km. 12 hours on the road." It's so real, and I 100% believe in stress testing a relationship before committing indefinitely. I'm not shameful to admit I've done this and it's fun! My best girl friend, we had met at work and I took her on a 8h hike (sorry gal) but we bonded so quickly and it stress tested so many aspects of our relationship that I hold deeply now.
haha i’m so glad you related to it!! honestly stress testing just makes everything so real so fast, just pure human-ness in all its messy, tired, funny glory. 😂 and wow, an 8 hour hike?? it’s beautiful how the people who survive those little chaos tests with us often end up becoming the ones we trust the most. thank you for sharing this, it made me smile big! 🥹🫶
This line hit me hard: “it’s in our nature to look for proof. not because we don’t believe love exists, but because sometimes we’re just so desperate to be sure.”
I’ve been sitting with this exact feeling lately—wondering if a recent connection was real or if I just made it all up in my head.
Not because I don’t believe in love… but because I needed to be sure it wasn’t just me seeing rainbows and butterflies where there was only silence.
It’s comforting to know I’m not alone in that ache for confirmation—for something to hold that says, yes, you weren’t imagining it.
A stunning read. I feel you are on to something that is so human. Those moments standing in the middle of a tight rope with a person on the other end. Holding out their hand? Facial cues indicating something? Anything? The looking, seeking for confirmation that maybe, just maybe it’s all worth it.
this was such a beautiful read. especially because it made me think too of what my version of the ' test ' looked like and I realised it has had always something to do with kindness. how someone behaves and treats someone they have no obligation to do right by - makes me believe they're a safe place. because people and feeling often change, someone saying they would never let you go can drop your hand in a minute's inconvenience when the situation calls for it, but the way we are as ' humans ' , our intrinsic nature cannot be so easily muffled or changed with situations. It assures me - even when we are in a storm - atleast we're in this together and you'd not kill me just to make it out alive. too dramatic? mayhaps but i think someone kind assures you that even that you heart breaks with that said person, it can still deserve and receive a soft landing on the floor and not a free fall from 10 stories above. it still will have cracks from the fall, but anything better than having it entirely shattered
this was so, so beautifully put i genuinely got goosebumps reading it. 🥹🤍 the way you described kindness as the real test... i couldn't agree more. love, words, promises, they can all change with circumstances, but someone's core, their humanity, how they choose to treat you when they have nothing to gain... that's the real anchor. thank you for this comment - it is stunning!
this is prolly one of the sweetest post i have read in a long time
awww shut you are the sweetest
My test was telling him the truth about what I've been through so I knew if he'd still want to stay and he didn't just pass it he aced it, not only did he stay but he made sure I was comfortable and helped me get comfortable telling the people that needed to know the truth
that’s so incredibly beautiful. 🥹 it takes so much courage to be vulnerable like that, and even more to find someone who meets you with love and patience
Jump off a building and if they don’t catch you they don’t care.
bahahaha the ultimate test
I think if someone has to consciously test their love interest, they’re in the wrong relationship, but if someone just passes all of the “tests” without anything consciously being laid out, they’re in the right one.
you are absolutely right! the most beautiful relationships are the ones where you don't even think of setting a test, the person just keeps showing up for you, again and again, without you ever having to ask. it’s like life naturally reveals their love without you having to pull at it. 💛
I love the analogy but I couldn't help but giggle to myself at the "two people. a car. 1000 km. 12 hours on the road." It's so real, and I 100% believe in stress testing a relationship before committing indefinitely. I'm not shameful to admit I've done this and it's fun! My best girl friend, we had met at work and I took her on a 8h hike (sorry gal) but we bonded so quickly and it stress tested so many aspects of our relationship that I hold deeply now.
haha i’m so glad you related to it!! honestly stress testing just makes everything so real so fast, just pure human-ness in all its messy, tired, funny glory. 😂 and wow, an 8 hour hike?? it’s beautiful how the people who survive those little chaos tests with us often end up becoming the ones we trust the most. thank you for sharing this, it made me smile big! 🥹🫶
Awe I’m so glad it did. Happy to spread a little light on the TL
and when you find someone who passes your lamp post test hold onto them gently. not like a prize, not like proof. but like home.
This line hit me hard: “it’s in our nature to look for proof. not because we don’t believe love exists, but because sometimes we’re just so desperate to be sure.”
I’ve been sitting with this exact feeling lately—wondering if a recent connection was real or if I just made it all up in my head.
Not because I don’t believe in love… but because I needed to be sure it wasn’t just me seeing rainbows and butterflies where there was only silence.
It’s comforting to know I’m not alone in that ache for confirmation—for something to hold that says, yes, you weren’t imagining it.
I adore this soooo much!!!
A stunning read. I feel you are on to something that is so human. Those moments standing in the middle of a tight rope with a person on the other end. Holding out their hand? Facial cues indicating something? Anything? The looking, seeking for confirmation that maybe, just maybe it’s all worth it.
Aditi, I loved this post. Every word is true. Thank you for writing this. It filled my heart with a certain sense of warmth.
awww thank you so much
I DID THIS. i made us get an airbnb in the middle of bumfuck georgia on a fruit farm to see if we could make it without external stimulation
i am invested haha. i hope you guys made it !
I love how each idea is amazingly written ,so beautiful
thank you!
Thank you for this!! Now I'm gonna go cry...
ahahaha i am sorry <33
No… I’m crying in a good way 😂 The post was beautiful
such a wholesome read.
awww thanks lovely
travel with me now 😭😭😭😭😭
omw