My test was telling him the truth about what I've been through so I knew if he'd still want to stay and he didn't just pass it he aced it, not only did he stay but he made sure I was comfortable and helped me get comfortable telling the people that needed to know the truth
that’s so incredibly beautiful. 🥹 it takes so much courage to be vulnerable like that, and even more to find someone who meets you with love and patience
I think if someone has to consciously test their love interest, they’re in the wrong relationship, but if someone just passes all of the “tests” without anything consciously being laid out, they’re in the right one.
you are absolutely right! the most beautiful relationships are the ones where you don't even think of setting a test, the person just keeps showing up for you, again and again, without you ever having to ask. it’s like life naturally reveals their love without you having to pull at it. 💛
This line hit me hard: “it’s in our nature to look for proof. not because we don’t believe love exists, but because sometimes we’re just so desperate to be sure.”
I’ve been sitting with this exact feeling lately—wondering if a recent connection was real or if I just made it all up in my head.
Not because I don’t believe in love… but because I needed to be sure it wasn’t just me seeing rainbows and butterflies where there was only silence.
It’s comforting to know I’m not alone in that ache for confirmation—for something to hold that says, yes, you weren’t imagining it.
My first date with my current boyfriend was a 2h car journey in each direction to a dance workshop and party, with a tailgate picnic dinner in between. It was a great way to get to know him. We not only survived, but had a great time.
We will have to wait a while for a longer trip, but I agree, you learn a lot from a person when in a car like that. Thanks for sharing...
A stunning read. I feel you are on to something that is so human. Those moments standing in the middle of a tight rope with a person on the other end. Holding out their hand? Facial cues indicating something? Anything? The looking, seeking for confirmation that maybe, just maybe it’s all worth it.
and i feel carsick in a road trip that's anything above 2 hours. i suppose i'll have to figure out my own "test". but why does it feel wrong to test them? because even if i trust them with my life i need a shit load of reassurance. i fear being misunderstood
This makes a lot of sense.. I like to enjoy those awkward silences with my partner, even tho she likes to have a conversation as often as possible. So whenever she let's the silence sit, it's just bliss. It's comfort, its soothing.
this is prolly one of the sweetest post i have read in a long time
awww shut you are the sweetest
So sweet that I'm getting diabetes as we speak
Felt like home..reading this.
yess so so sweettt ahhh 🥰
I know right, I love this honestly
My test was telling him the truth about what I've been through so I knew if he'd still want to stay and he didn't just pass it he aced it, not only did he stay but he made sure I was comfortable and helped me get comfortable telling the people that needed to know the truth
that’s so incredibly beautiful. 🥹 it takes so much courage to be vulnerable like that, and even more to find someone who meets you with love and patience
I think if someone has to consciously test their love interest, they’re in the wrong relationship, but if someone just passes all of the “tests” without anything consciously being laid out, they’re in the right one.
you are absolutely right! the most beautiful relationships are the ones where you don't even think of setting a test, the person just keeps showing up for you, again and again, without you ever having to ask. it’s like life naturally reveals their love without you having to pull at it. 💛
Maybe it is a test of consistency after all 😊
Consistency competes with big sporadic gestures. But only one remains true
They may for you ,but do you for them or do you demand more?
This line hit me hard: “it’s in our nature to look for proof. not because we don’t believe love exists, but because sometimes we’re just so desperate to be sure.”
I’ve been sitting with this exact feeling lately—wondering if a recent connection was real or if I just made it all up in my head.
Not because I don’t believe in love… but because I needed to be sure it wasn’t just me seeing rainbows and butterflies where there was only silence.
It’s comforting to know I’m not alone in that ache for confirmation—for something to hold that says, yes, you weren’t imagining it.
and when you find someone who passes your lamp post test hold onto them gently. not like a prize, not like proof. but like home.
My dad always used to say that— if you ever want to truly know someone, travel with them. It reveals everything you need to know.
Loved reading this!!
My first date with my current boyfriend was a 2h car journey in each direction to a dance workshop and party, with a tailgate picnic dinner in between. It was a great way to get to know him. We not only survived, but had a great time.
We will have to wait a while for a longer trip, but I agree, you learn a lot from a person when in a car like that. Thanks for sharing...
I DID THIS. i made us get an airbnb in the middle of bumfuck georgia on a fruit farm to see if we could make it without external stimulation
i am invested haha. i hope you guys made it !
A stunning read. I feel you are on to something that is so human. Those moments standing in the middle of a tight rope with a person on the other end. Holding out their hand? Facial cues indicating something? Anything? The looking, seeking for confirmation that maybe, just maybe it’s all worth it.
and i feel carsick in a road trip that's anything above 2 hours. i suppose i'll have to figure out my own "test". but why does it feel wrong to test them? because even if i trust them with my life i need a shit load of reassurance. i fear being misunderstood
this made me feel so seen; im such an overthinker that i search for constant proof.. reading this made me feel less lonely :))
I love how each idea is amazingly written ,so beautiful
thank you!
OMG. I’m in love with this text. Is it normal to cry while reading? I don’t know why, but these words got me.
what a sweet and adorable read!
This makes a lot of sense.. I like to enjoy those awkward silences with my partner, even tho she likes to have a conversation as often as possible. So whenever she let's the silence sit, it's just bliss. It's comfort, its soothing.
this is so beautiful ❤️ thanks for writing it